Sarah Larue

June 16, 2021 By Sarah Larue

Freely and With Full Consent

As a little girl, I loved the old swashbuckling tales of adventure and romance. Robin Hood, Zorro, The Black Arrow…Watching The Black Arrow I learned what an annulment was. When the evil lord tried to force the rich heroine to marry him by kidnapping her relatives that seemed like the worst fate in the world! My mom explained it wouldn’t be a valid marriage because she wouldn’t enter of her free will.

The Church requires that people enter marriage “freely and with full consent.”

Those simple words “freely and with full consent” have a far deeper meaning than a forced wedding. Marriage is (among other things) a sexual and emotional relationship. To truly give yourself sexually and emotionally, you need to be sexually and emotionally free. Otherwise, instead of giving you wind up taking, and using instead of loving. While there aren’t many evil lords hanging around today, there are two sadly common enemies to a person’s sexual and emotional freedom: lust and fear.

It’s very true that if you cannot say no, your yes is incomplete.

If you cannot deny yourself sexual pleasure, lust will color your perspective when approaching a potential spouse, and you marry the pleasure instead of the person. If you are terrified of being alone, fear will cling to any reasonable prospect that comes along, and you marry the relationship instead of the person. Because you cannot say “no,” you are not free to give full consent.

To be free does not require being free from temptation. You may struggle with thoughts or have moments of panic. To be free, those feelings must not control you. You should have strong, healthy sexual desires and you will be tempted. But you need the freedom and humility that can run away from the near occasion of sin and avoid illicit behavior. You should have the emotional health to form deep attachments that may break your heart. But you need the freedom and trust that can walk away from a relationship that isn’t right and accept living a single life with God.

Before you marry someone, you need to make sure you are in love with this unique, individual person, not with the pleasure or the relationship. When you do truly love the person, to build a healthy relationship you need the freedom to give yourself completely. So you need the ability to deny yourself sexual pleasure or the security of a relationship. If you sincerely strive for Christ, you will eventually reach the reliance on Him for strength and comfort that will break the grip of lust. If you truly seek God’s will, you will learn to trust Him and fear will lose its stranglehold. In three years, you don’t want to reach this freedom and peace, look at your spouse, and go “What was I thinking? We aren’t best friends. We don’t have a healthy relationship. Why didn’t I wait?”

Lust or fear has hurt you ENOUGH. Don’t be impatient and give them the chance to influence the decision or destroy the relationship that will hurt you or bless you for the rest of your life.

If you are dating someone addicted to lust or dominated by fear, step back. Tell your friend you’re seriously concerned that this will prevent your chance for a healthy relationship. This person may be “the one,” but you can take a break while they concentrate on improving their relationship with God first. If they won’t, you can’t move forward.

You will be called hard, self-righteous, and told to be more understanding because “they can’t help themselves.” You aren’t claiming to be God and judging the personal culpability of anyone. But if the poor people really can’t help themselves—that’s actually the problem! Because it means they aren’t free. You cannot ask someone to enter marriage when they are not free.

Pray for guidance, trust your gut, and never move forward in a relationship if both of you cannot do so with purity and peace. It will hurt, but in the words of one guy to the girl who had broken things off between them many years before: “Thank God you were such a sensible young woman!”

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Sarah Karlyn Larue is a 26-year-old author of eight books, who loves her Faith and loves writing and is happiest when putting them together. Her latest series, That They Might Have Love, is for all Catholic young women who want to seek God first in their love lives and find greater love and joy when they are single, dating, and married.

June 7, 2021 By Sarah Larue

3 Things Every Guy Should Know About Porn

When a guy tells me he’s looking at porn, I don’t love him any less. In a way, I feel compassion toward him, because no guy who looks at porn loves himself, and I wish I could make up for that. I don’t think any less of him either, because I don’t know every circumstance so I can’t judge him. What I do feel is worried about him. I’ve known enough guys hooked on porn to know how it will affect him and damage his relationships. If you think pornography won’t destroy your chances with a girl listen to a girl’s side of the story.

The way you look at your girlfriend will turn her off.

There are two ways a man can look at a woman with interest. The first is pure desire. Her beauty leaves him breathless and she likes it! And she feels safe, because he is seeing all of her. She’s still there. Her beauty has attracted him to her as a person. When a man looks at a woman this way, the thought of marriage and arousing her husband with her beauty is incredibly exciting to her. She anticipates unveiling and giving her gift of self on their honeymoon with sheer delight.

The second way, of course, is lust. The best way I can describe it is that the girl feels like she’s not there. It’s not about him and her with the chemistry between them, it’s about him and sex, and she’s his latest pleasure provider. She feels completely left out. Instead of happy and excited, she’s disappointed and restless. The thought of undressing before him makes her nauseated. To do anything physical with him she feels like she would have to separate herself from her body and she hates that. Lust turns a girl off faster than anything else.

But pornography trains you to look at women with lust. When a guy watches porn eventually he starts looking at me that way and it kills any attraction I feel for him. Even if I really like him I just want him to go away. On the contrary, when I’m with men who don’t view porn I feel safe and free. They won’t look at me lustfully because they see all of me all the time. I don’t have to protect my beauty from their lust.

You want to attract your girlfriend. You want the ability to arouse your wife. You want your girl to feel safe and cherished by you. Pornography destroys all of that.

You won’t handle the word “no” like a man.

Pornography trains your brain to never accept the word “no” from a woman. Every day thousands of women are at your fingertips, apparently ready to throw their dignity and their souls in the trash to satisfy your every whim. So when a real flesh and blood girl tells you “no” about anything—physical or otherwise—you are highly affronted! She resisted you? Told you no? Disagreed with you? Contradicted you? Turned you down? How could she! Who does she think she is? You’ll get her to change her mind!

NOTHING makes a woman respect and admire a man more than his ability to accept the word “no” and sacrifice his will for the sake of another. That takes genuine strength and every woman wants a man strong enough to love her sacrificially. Manipulating, pouting, guilt-tripping, pity parties, and drama when you don’t get your way leaves her disgusted. She may make excuses for you, and she’ll find herself with her stomach in knots, apologizing profusely, and begging you to understand every time she dares cross your will—until she thinks “Why am I apologizing? He’s self-absorbed!”

There’s little chance for you once she feels this way.

Your negativity will pull your girlfriend down.

The Church has always taught that “sin darkens the intellect,” and modern scientific studies show how pornography sabotages your mental health and fosters depression. Chronic impatience and excessive negativity are unavoidable side effects of watching the most violent and degrading industry in the world. No girl can become emotionally involved with you without getting pulled into your depression. To you, your negative attitude about life, in particular about women, seems normal, but to her the constant stream of criticism and contempt is incredibly draining. She soon realizes she’s a much happier person without you than with you. She may hang around trying to cheer you up, but that quickly backfires.

If you view porn and she does not, her relationship with God will be better. She will have peace you do not. She will have joy you do not. She will have profound respect for herself and others that you do not. At first, this will attract you, but eventually, it will make you resentful. Because without intending to, she’s showing you up. She is more emotionally stable, has more self-control and a better self-image and image of God. And since those who view porn already despise themselves, your insecurity makes you twice as defensive. You grow angry that “she’s always ahead of you” and start putting her down.

The girl feels devastated. The very things you used to love about her now seem to make you hate her. She feels like she’ll either have to lose her peace and joy and self-respect or lose you. If she chooses the former neither of you will be happy.

So often I’ve watched a guy go to pieces or watched his relationships fall apart and wished so badly that I could show his younger, pre-porn self what it would do to him. Sadly I can’t, but maybe I can encourage you to avoid pornography like the plague. If you’re already viewing it, go to your parents or another mentor you trust. Go to priests and counselors. Pray, fast, and revolve your life around confession, Communion, and adoration. Break away from impure crowds. Get the internet off your phone and far away from you whenever you’re alone. Do whatever it takes. Your happiness and winning the love of a beautiful woman is worth it.

[For help breaking free from porn, check out FORGED!]

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Sarah Karlyn Larue is a 27-year-old author of eight books, who loves her Faith and loves writing and is happiest when putting them together. Her latest series, That They Might Have Love, is for all Catholic young women who want to seek God first in their love lives and find greater love and joy when they are single, dating, and married.

June 21, 2020 By Sarah Larue

3 cose che ogni ragazzo dovrebbe sapere sul porno

Quando un ragazzo mi dice che sta guardando del porno, non lo amo di meno. In un certo senso, provo compassione per lui, perché nessun ragazzo che guarda il porno ama se stesso, e vorrei poter rimediare a tutto ciò . E nemmeno lo stimo di meno, perché non conosco tutte le circostanze per cui guarda il porno, quindi non posso giudicarlo. Quello che sento è essere preoccupato per lui. Conosco abbastanza bene ragazzi appassionati di porno da sapere come questa pratica li influenzerà e li danneggerà nelle relazioni. Se pensi che la pornografia non distrugga le tue possibilità di relazione con una ragazza, ascolta la versione femminile della storia.

Il modo in cui guardi la tua ragazza la mortificherà .

Ci sono due modi in cui un uomo può guardare una donna con interesse. Il primo è puro desiderio. La sua bellezza lo lascia senza fiato e le piace! E lei si sente al sicuro, perché lui la vede completamente e lei è presente davanti a lui. La sua bellezza lo ha attratto a lei come persona. Quando un uomo guarda una donna in questo modo, il pensiero del matrimonio e dell’eccitazione del marito con la sua bellezza è incredibilmente eccitante per lei. Prevede di svelare e dare il suo dono di sé durante la luna di miele con pura gioia.

Il secondo modo, ovviamente, è la lussuria. Il modo migliore in cui posso descriverlo è che la ragazza si sente come se non fosse lì. Non si tratta di lui e lei o dell’attrazione chimica tra loro, riguarda piuttosto lui e il sesso, e lei è la sua ultima fonte di piacere. E così lei sI sente completamente esclusa. La ragazza, Invece di essere felice ed eccitata, sarà delusa e irrequieta. Il pensiero di spogliarsi davanti a lui le fa venire la nausea. Per fare qualcosa di fisico con lui si sente come se dovesse separarsi dal suo corpo e lo odia. La lussuria spegne una ragazza più velocemente di qualsiasi altra cosa.

Ma la pornografia ti insegna a guardare le donne con lussuria. Quando un ragazzo guarda un porno alla fine inizia a guardarmi in quel modo e uccide qualsiasi attrazione che provo per lui. Anche se mi piace davvero, voglio solo che se ne vada. Al contrario, quando sono con uomini che non guardano il porno mi sento al sicura e libera. Non mi guarderanno con lussuria perché mi vedono sempre nella mia completezza. Non devo proteggere la mia bellezza dalla loro lussuria.

Vuoi attirare la tua ragazza. Vuoi la capacità di suscitare tua moglie. Vuoi che la tua ragazza si senta al sicuro e amata da te. Ebbene sappi che la pornografia distrugge tutto questo.

Non gestirai la parola “no” come un uomo.

La pornografia allena il tuo cervello a non accettare mai la parola “no” da una donna. Ogni giorno migliaia di donne sono a tua disposizione, apparentemente pronte a buttare la loro dignità e la loro anima nella spazzatura per soddisfare ogni tuo capriccio. Quindi, quando una vera ragazza in carne e ossa ti dice “no” su qualsiasi cosa, fisica o meno, sei molto offeso! Ti ha resistito? Ti ha detto di no? Lei è in disaccordo con te? Ti ha contraddetto? Ti ha rifiutato? Come osa farlo? Chi pensa di essere? Tu le farai cambiare idea!

NIENTE fa rispettare e ammirare un uomo più della sua capacità di accettare la parola “no” e sacrificare la sua volontà per il bene di un altra persona. Ciò richiede una forza genuina e ogni donna vuole un uomo abbastanza forte da amarla in modo sacrificale. Manipolare, mettere il broncio, inciampare nel senso di colpa, farle pietà e drammi quando non si ottiene la sua strada la lascia disgustata. Potrebbe trovare delle scuse per te, e si ritroverà con lo stomaco in subbuglio, a scusarsi profusamente e a implorarti di capire ogni volta che osa attraversare la tua volontà, finché non penserà “Perché mi sto scusando? Tutto ciò è da egocentrici!»

Ci sono poche possibilità per te una volta che si sente in questo modo.

La tua negatività demoralizzerà la tua ragazza

La Chiesa ha sempre insegnato che “il peccato oscura l’intelletto” e studi scientifici moderni mostrano come la pornografia saboti la tua salute mentale e favorisca la depressione. L’impazienza cronica e l’eccessiva negatività sono effetti collaterali inevitabili del guardare l’industria più violenta e degradante del mondo. Nessuna ragazza può essere coinvolta emotivamente con te senza essere trascinata nella tua depressione. Per te, il tuo atteggiamento negativo sulla vita, in particolare sulle donne, sembra normale, ma per lei il flusso costante di critiche e disprezzo è incredibilmente drenante. Si rende presto conto che è una persona molto più felice senza di te che con te. Potrebbe rimanere in giro cercando di tirarti su il morale, ma questo si ritorce rapidamente contro.

Se guardi il porno e lei no, la sua relazione con Dio sarà migliore della tua. Lei avrà pace tu no. Lei avrà gioia tu no. Lei avrà un profondo rispetto per se stessa e per gli altri che tu non hai. All’inizio, questo ti attirerà, ma alla fine ti farà risentire perché senza volerlo, ti sta mostrando come ci si comporta . Lei sarà più stabile emotivamente, con più autocontrollo e una migliore immagine di sé e di Dio. E poiché coloro che guardano il porno già si disprezzano, la tua insicurezza raddoppierà e ti porterà ad essere ancora di più sulla difensiva. Ti arrabbi perché la tua amata “è sempre davanti a te” e così inizi a svilirla.

La ragazza si sente devastata. Le stesse cose che amavi di lei ora sembrano fartela odiare. Lei sente che dovrà perdere la pace, la gioia e il rispetto di sé o perdere te. Se lei sceglie il primo nessuno di voi sarà felice.

Così spesso ho visto un ragazzo andare in frantumi oppure delle relazioni andare in pezzi e ho desiderato così tanto poter mostrare al suo io più giovane e pre-porno cosa gli avrebbe fatto. Purtroppo non posso portarti indietro nel tempo, ma forse posso incoraggiarti a evitare la pornografia come la peste. Se la stai già visualizzando, vai dai tuoi genitori o da un altro mentore di cui ti fidi. Vai da sacerdoti e consiglieri. Prega, digiuna e ruota la tua vita intorno alla confessione, alla comunione e all’adorazione. Allontanati dalle folle impure. Scollega Internet dal telefono e allontanati da te ogni volta che sei solo. Fa tutto ciò che serve. Ne vale la pena ! Tutto questo serve alla tua felicità e per conquistare l’amore di una bella donna.

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Sarah Karlyn Larue è una ventisettenne autrice di otto libri, che ama la sua fede e ama scrivere ed è più felice quando riesce a coniugare insieme le 2 cose. La sua ultima serie, That They Might Have Love, è per tutte le giovani donne cattoliche che vogliono cercare Dio prima di tutto nelle loro vite amorose e trovare un amore e una gioia maggiori quando sono single, quando frequentano un ragazzo e quando sono sposate.

June 5, 2020 By Sarah Larue

Open Your Eyes (Part 2)

We were in the library looking at a photograph book of the beautiful countryside in France. Then we turned to a picture with a somewhat immodestly clad female dancer.

“These French!” my date said. “Who wants to see that?” He immediately turned the page.

I just smiled. On the inside I was throwing confetti. Yes! I thought. He gets it!

Two weeks later he showed me a movie with another female “dancer” with far less clothes on. Okay! I corrected myself. He doesn’t get it.

I was a little nervous talking to him about my standards for fear of sounding holier-than-thou or making him feel bad. I shouldn’t have been worried about either.

“No one does that!” he laughed when I mentioned fast-forwarding, looking away or when bad enough turning it off or walking out. My idealism was nice, he continued, but I needed to get out of my comfortable little girl’s world and live in the real one.

I had had this conversation with guys before. I could have told him his stance was not comfortable for me at all. I would have loved to say you’re right, it’s not important. But I couldn’t.

Years before, modesty was hard for me, until I realized modesty was not a practice just in response to evil but in respect for what is holy—male and female sexuality. The word “holy” literally means “set apart.” Once I viewed even the sight of my female figure as priceless, modesty becomes easy.

In my efforts to understand modesty, I had gone to the Catechism of the Catholic Church. In paragraph 2521 it says: “Purity requires modesty; it is an integral part of temperance. Modesty protects the intimate center of the person. It means refusing to unveil what should remain hidden.”

Nowhere does it even imply that watching an otherwise great movie excuses us from “refusing to unveil what should remain hidden,” what is intimate in a person.

If my sexuality is such a treasure that even the sight of it is holy, then so is everyone else’s sexuality. If I respect my value enough to refuse to unveil before another person’s eyes what should remain hidden in my body—then “love thy neighbor as thyself” requires that I respect another person’s value enough to refuse to unveil before my eyes what should remain hidden in their body.

Whether it causes lustful thoughts or not, since this does not belong to me, I have no right to see it. I can control what I watch, and I should respect every actor and actress as much as I respect myself.

Otherwise I’d be saying “I’m a good Catholic, so I will respect myself with the veil of modesty. But you—look how you’re living! I don’t have to respect you with the veil of modesty.” How self-righteous and unloving is that? The value of a person is unconditional, so they deserve unconditional respect. Catholics must give people more respect than they give themselves because we know they are worth it.

Practicing modesty to this extent is not living in a bubble away from “the real world.” This is giving every human being the respect God’s image deserves and it is living modesty to its fullness.

I don’t think God will be disappointed if I watch less movies than my peers. But it would hurt God’s heart if I acted like a four-year-old pointing at my siblings with: “They started it! They did it first! It would be like telling Him: Father, my brothers and sisters in Hollywood didn’t know or ignored the respect their bodies deserve. But I knew. And I didn’t turn off that TV. I didn’t walk out of that theater. Because they didn’t put a veil between their bodies and my eyes—I didn’t bother to either.”

“…every obscenity in the written word and every form of indecency on the stage and screen, should be condemned publicly and unanimously by all those who have at heart the advance of civilization and the safeguarding of the outstanding values of the human spirit. It is quite absurd to defend this kind of depravity in the name of art or of culture.”—Pope Saint Paul VI

Let God open your eyes to human sexuality—something so sacred even the sight is “set apart”— something “holy, to be unveiled only in covenant love.”

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Sarah Karlyn Larue is a 25-year-old author of eight books, who loves her Faith and loves writing and is happiest when putting them together. Her latest series, That They Might Have Love is for all Catholic young women who want to seek God first in their love lives and find greater love and joy when they are single, dating, and married.

June 4, 2020 By Sarah Larue

Open Your Eyes (Part 1)

I was fourteen, unpacking some brand-new shirts I had ordered, and trying them on my brand-new figure. My mom was there with me and our dialogue went something like this:

Me: “Oh wow! I never looked this good before!”

My Mom: “Um… I think those shirts need to go back.”

Me: “What?! No! Why?”

My Mom: “You don’t want to put thoughts about you in a boy’s head, do you?”

Me: “That’s not fair! Boys are stupid! Why can’t they think the way we do???”

Despite my protests, my totally amazing mom sent the shirts back. She consoled me with: “When you marry a great man and you’re alone, you can dress as fun as you want for him.” That calmed my teenage drama somewhat. After all, he was the guy I wanted to impress. But I also remember thinking “That has to wait for marriage too?”

As a teenager having to dress modestly was annoying to me because it didn’t seem fair that how I dressed was subject to what men could see without being tempted—until I realized it wasn’t just about lust. Modesty is not put into practice just in response to something evil like lust but out of respect for something holy like my whole body and soul.

It can be tempting for women to look at our body, feel shame, and think: “This body of mine can tempt a man to sin, to objectify, to lust, my female figure can lead to evil, so I must keep it covered.” No!

Look at your body and remember: “This body is sacred. This is the image of God, the image of self-giving love. God created my female physique for the incredible, awe-inspiring purpose of union with my beloved and the pro-creation, development and nourishment of the image of God! He called me “very good” and because a woman’s body is so profoundly good no man has the right to even see the fullness of female sexuality without permission from God Himself. My feminine attributes are too sacred, too important, and too beautiful for any man to gaze upon except the one with whom I will exchange this gift of self… and only when God Himself has given us to each other.”

When you dress modestly it doesn’t mean you have to be drab or unattractive. You should dress in a beautiful way for the same reason you dress modestly—not to be obsessed over your looks nor to attract attention—but out of respect for your body’s value.

While helping men control their thoughts is a good end of our decision to practice modesty, the deeper motivation should come from recognizing that immodesty is first and foremost a sin against your own body.

Don’t advertise what is not for sale. Don’t carelessly leave exposed as “not important” what should cost a man a lifetime of devotion to obtain. It is not enough for a man to not lust after your female sexuality. He also has to cherish your female sexuality as a treasure of priceless value.

The veil of modesty encourages a man to respect that value. Modesty has been called an “invitation to reverence.” It invites men to properly appreciate how much you’re worth as a woman. If he runs from the invitation, you run from him. If he does not think a woman’s body is sacred enough to deserve the veil of modesty, he will not properly appreciate you in marriage. When a man accepts the veil of modesty, it’s because he can see clearly how beautiful you are.

St. Pope John Paul II explains that in the innocence of Eden Adam and Eve saw the other one’s naked body as an invitation to love that person. Modesty pays the respect and reverence the human body is worth. When you have trained yourself with reverence to recognize that immeasurable worth, then the gift of self can be given and received with nothing but joy and gratitude. When you have this reverence in the commitment of marriage to love the entirety of this person forever, the unveiling of this gift becomes an invitation to love.

There is only one man you will ever invite to love you as one with himself. Your honeymoon is a private party with one most exclusive guest. It’s a private invitation.

“That which is veiled is holy, to be unveiled only in covenant love.” — Scott Hahn, Signs of Life

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January 7, 2020 By Sarah Larue

When his past isn’t so perfect

Suppose you meet an amazing man. He’s devout, mature, your best friend, you’re crazy about each other—but he wasn’t always like this. Like many deceived young people, he wasn’t always pure.

As with any guy, make sure his chaste lifestyle is the real thing. If he isn’t faithful to you with his heart, his mind, his body, or his eyes, he isn’t ready for marriage. The past should not make any difference to your relationship, but where he is today makes all the difference in the world. Only a man passionately in love with and devoted to purity is capable of being passionately in love with and devoted to you.

So time proves him to be pure and his love true, but when you love someone so much—how do your emotions handle his past?

The first thing to remember is Psalm 51:3,6: “Have mercy on me, O God… Against You only have I sinned, and done what is evil in Your sight.”

If he is a Catholic gentleman, he has been to Confession countless times since his last sexual sin. In Confession, God erased that sin. It no longer exists. In Confession, God healed and restored your beloved. The man who walked out of that confessional is not the same one who committed that sin.

Excuse me? Forgive you for what? What are you talking about?

Now if a guy wants to hear “I forgive you,” say so, of course. However, your first thought should not be for your own pain but for his. Love always thinks first of the one you love. What should bother you the most are the garbage and its effects he’s had to overcome, and that he missed having the best single years. He’s the one who got cheated and ripped off.

Of course it will hurt you. Be patient and gentle with yourself as you work through it. We aren’t God, we can’t “forgive and forget” perfectly. But we can choose to put it out of our mind as best we can. Allow no morbid or jealous curiosity. Honesty is necessary, but it should be brief and to the point. Going into details will only make it harder on our imagination later.

It may seem impossible not to fret but remember: they were not “other girls”—meaning, they cannot be compared to you. It may have been sex, but it was never making love. Breaking love is more accurate. To you he now gives love when he dies to self and stays pure with you, because your happiness, your ultimate good means more to him than anything else.

No one wants to be compared to other people in their sex life. However, if you marry a man who genuinely loves you that won’t happen, because again they are not comparable. When you love a person the pleasure does not come from performance but from nearness to the beloved. You will enjoy it and have fun simply because you are together!!! Your skill has nothing to do with his enjoyment. Your happiness is what makes him happy. The goal of love is not getting but giving. A gentleman who loves you is not focused on reaching perfection but on initiating intimacy. The simple fact that it is you is what gives him joy.

Also, the wedding night is one night. It is not the pinnacle, it is the beginning. The longer you are married the more natural and easy it becomes and the more you learn about each other. As time goes by the more you love each other, and so the better it gets, the more fun it gets, the more exciting it gets! Every happily married couple soon reaches a level of intimacy, satisfaction, and enjoyment temporary partners cannot even comprehend.

Those who turn to God lack for nothing. You have every reason to be furious with the enemy who came to rob, kill and destroy. But you can also laugh at him because God gave back to you what he tried to destroy. On your wedding night you and your beloved, for the first time, make love by consummating your marriage—because you love each other, totally, completely, and forever.

(For more on this, check out the video: “My Partner’s Sexual Past Haunts Me . . . What Can I Do?” )

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Sarah Karlyn Larue is a 25-year-old author of eight books, who loves her Faith and loves writing and is happiest when putting them together. Her latest series, That They Might Have Love is for all Catholic young women who want to seek God first in the love lives and find greater love and joy, when they are single, dating, and married.