Let Go and Let God

You may have a picture in your head of your ideal future – a dream of the way you would like your life to go. This may involve a spouse, a dog, six children, and a white picket fence, or it may look more to you like a life spent deep in prayer and service, or even in total isolation in a monastery or abbey.

Whatever your dream is, these are likely the images that pull on your heart, and are often a motivation for prayer and action. These dreams of things to come are good, wholesome, and beautiful, and are usually put on your heart by your Maker. But what if some of those dreams are so consuming that you’re  overlooking what God might actually want for you?

As a Catholic, one of the most important matters you can reflect upon is your vocation, which will ultimately set the course for the rest of your life. Accepting God’s plan may require an alteration of your dreams and ambitions, because when you know your vocation, it will become the single most important thing in your life. A vocation is different from a career or a profession. Rather, it is the reason for which you have been born, and the reason why God designed you the way He did. Not intimidating at all, right?

If you’re a control freak, like me, you might be thinking, But I already know what I want. Isn’t that proof that my dream is my calling? 

Yes…but maybe no. I will tell you that the only thing I’ve ever wanted consistently throughout my life is marriage. I’ve romanticized love from the time I was a little girl, and my passion for it only grew when I lived my first real taste of it over the course of a six-year relationship. However, the caveat about romantic love is that it is very easy to get wrapped up in it to the point that everything else becomes secondary – including your identity in Christ. Romantic love is, no doubt, wonderful, but it is God who should be at the center of your life. Perhaps before you are capable of fully understanding this – before you learn to put human love in its proper place – God has other plans for you.

In my own life, God continues to make me wait for the one thing I’ve always wanted most. It got to the point, a few months back, where I actually found myself in a bathroom stall at midnight in a city hundreds of miles away from home, tears streaming down my face as I thought out loud to God: This is hurting me. It is hurting me to wait for my husband. 

Looking back on that experience – despite the fact that it only happened three months ago – I realize that God has been preparing me. Maybe it’s for marriage, or maybe it’s for several more years on my own. Maybe it’s for a life of singleness or service. The fact is, I don’t know what God wants for me, yet. I only know that my heart still yearns to be joined in perfect communion with another person’s. However, I also know that I am willing to go wherever God leads me, so that I can reach all that His love orders for me. He created me for a purpose, and I will chase after that purpose until I’ve found it.

Similarly, He created you for a specific purpose, and He will guide you to it and reveal it when the time is right – but only if you are open to His divine will. Being open doesn’t have to mean that you’re in love with the idea of singleness, or service, or anything else that sounds less than appealing, right now. It just means that you have to let go of your chokehold on what you believe you want, in order to be open to whatever God is trying to put on your heart.

No matter what your calling may be, you were created for sainthood. For holiness. For perfect communion with God, and with others. Don’t be discouraged if you’re still trying to figure out God’s plan for your life. Simply stand still, and let Him move.


Lindsey Todd graduated from West Chester University in 2016 with a B.A. in English, and currently works as a technical writer for Mars, Inc. In her free time, she enjoys creative writing, singing, playing with her dog, reading, and exercising. She also loves art, fashion, and deep political and theological discussion. She has a special devotion to the Blessed Sacrament and a special love for St. Pope John Paul II. Lindsey is passionate about sharing the beauty of pure love with others, particularly as a Catholic writer. You can learn more about her work at www.lindseytodd.net. Lindsey currently resides in Bucks County, Pennsylvania with her family.


  1. Thank you.. I needed to hear this. I have felt the same way. I want to have a loving husband some day but am trying to be open as well to Gods will for me. But in the meantime it does hurt to wait!

    By Sherri Lang | 3 years ago Reply
  2. This article was so helpful and is very similar to my current situation. Thank you for giving your life to God, and for sharing your experiences to bring others close to Him!

    By Monica | 3 years ago Reply
  3. Beautifully said and a much needed message for me… and MANY young adult Catholics. We are all called to radical holiness regardless of vocation, so we need to begin today and not worry about tomorrow. Thanks for your witness!

    By Connor | 3 years ago Reply
  4. Thank You ma’am for this pieces. It’s so helpful.

    By Mary | 3 years ago Reply
  5. Beautiful description of the desolate life of finding consolation in Christ as it takes patience to carry his cross and to realize he is with us on this journey towards heaven. At times we put on the yoke and as an anxious little child, we get ahead of him forgetting the cross we must embrace. He gently brings us back to his loving and merciful heart teaching the way of (love and humility) and the virtues necessary to carry our sufferings for the greater glory of God. Thank you for the reflection of love!

    By Dan Stevens | 3 years ago Reply
  6. Thank you for writing this; as you said, God may have us wait longer in order to prepare us better for our future vocations. I’ve been trying to view this “extra” time as training to help us work on trusting in Him fully, turning all our concerns over to His care, relying on His help through Mary’s intercession.

    Maybe you may appreciate Psalm 27:13-14?

    May God bless you.

    By Michael Casey | 3 years ago Reply
  7. This is very timely because right now my concern is if I am spending my time to do what I should be doing right now. This brings me anxiety and although I put God as my top priority, my calendar doesn’t show it. I guess I have to really ask my Maker what He really wants me to do by spending more time with Him and listening. Thank you for such a great reminder to let go and let God!

    By Andrew M. | 3 years ago Reply
  8. This message is so wonderful, it’s literally what I needed right now.

    By Tessy | 3 years ago Reply
  9. Thank you for being so open and blunt. Very inspiring.

    By Jacie | 3 years ago Reply
  10. ok

    By theresa nguyen | 3 years ago Reply
  11. This is a great article, thank you so much for posting this. I am going through this right now, and this is very helpful and inspiring. God bless!

    By Chris Olsen | 3 years ago Reply
  12. These are some words I needed to read. I just left a one year relationship with a boy (who I heavily discerned marriage with) because he cheated on me. Now I feel anxious that I no longer have a clear view of who my future spouse will be. I feel frustrated that I must start from square one all over again. I struggle with wanting to control my own life and destiny. But I’m only 20 years old, and I need to remind myself of that! I have so much time to fall in love and there’s no rush. There’s beauty in the mystery as God prepares me and my future husband. I gotta remember to trust Him and work on my own spirituality. Thank you for sharing this!

    By Denise | 3 years ago Reply

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