Fight On, My Brother

My Dear Brother in Christ,

We see you.

We see the fight you are engaged in.

We want you to know that you do not fight in vain, nor without gratitude.

In the times of knights and castles—in stories such as Braveheart—men went into battle for the protection of women and children, as well as their beliefs.

Now, you are fighting a similar fight. But instead of battlefields, it is within your mind and heart that war has been waged. Here you fight, day and night, against the lies of the enemy and the desires of the fall. You fight for our dignity. You fight for our hearts. You fight for Love.

You must combat the lie that this lust within you is the love that you were created for, the lie that the beauty of a woman lies in her body alone, the lie that conquering her makes you more of a man.

Instead, it is quite the opposite. It is the fight against this that makes you more of a man. This fight to be more; to love more, to see more.

As women, we long to be seen for more than our bodies. To be cherished, not used. We want to be beautiful to you not just for our clothes and make-up, but for our eyes, our smiles, our hearts and our souls. We want to be your best friend not just your lover.

We do not always show these desires, due to the effects the fall has had on us. Some of us may dress or act as if we condone, or even encourage, the thoughts or actions that tempt you. But this is not the case.

The heart of a woman is directly correlated to love and relationship. Within us, our Creator has instilled a great desire to be loved, but also a great fear of being used; acting as a protection for love. We long to be open and vulnerable, yet our hearts are surrounded by walls. From these we look out, wondering what each man is looking for. If it is a woman’s heart that a man seeks, then these walls begin to fall—revealing a beauty of great depth beyond her appearances, and her true self.

But if a woman finds that a man seeks only her body, the walls of her heart become as incapable of penetration as the locked gates of a castle. Then whether she allows that man to use her body or not, it is only the shell of her beauty that he will be seeing.

Beyond the physical actions, we as women also fear the battle within a man’s mind And that is why I say that you do not fight thanklessly; we cannot express the depth of our gratitude for you when you fight for our dignity. It is not true that what happens in your mind hurts no one but yourself. What happens in your mind reflects the state of your heart. And we long to be loved by all of you—heart and mind. You cannot be capable of pure love while using our bodies within fantasies that we want no part of, and would not consent to.

So fight on my brother. Wage war not just for our dignity and the love that we desire to share with you, but for your own dignity and strength as a man. Remember too that you do not fight alone. Fight alongside your brothers, follow the lead of your great commander, Christ, and defeat the serpent that seeks to ruin love.

Take back the custody of your eyes and mind by allowing Christ to fully command your heart. Choose to see us for who we are and restore the depth and beauty of the human person.

The battle is long and tiring, but persevere—for so much depends on it.

Every man dies, not every man really lives.”

~William Wallace (Braveheart)

Be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.”

~Ephesians 6:10-11

With Much Gratitude, Prayers, and Love,

                                                                                     Your Sisters in Christ

kaylinKaylin Koslosky is finishing up her final year at Colorado State University, where she is pursuing her love for science and secondary education. She is a member of Chi Omega, a FOCUS student missionary, and a Biblestudy and retreat leader for RamCatholic. She loves hiking and being outdoors, and is passionate about sharing the beauty of Christ and this world with others. She is currently working to publish her first book with her best friend Megan Finegan as a way of spreading a much-needed message of love to her female peers.


  1. What an outstanding post! A message for my sons and daughters…..6 in all 🙂

    By mary lehr | 6 years ago Reply
  2. Great read… Beautiful

    By dino | 6 years ago Reply
  3. Beautiful post. Just really needed to hear this.

    By Janique | 6 years ago Reply
  4. So beautiful, these words are so inspiring. Thank you.
    Praying for our sons and daughters to fight the good fight and to be filled with hope.

    By Lucille | 6 years ago Reply
  5. Thank you so much for putting into words what so many striving men, all Christian men, need to hear. I appreciate you, beloved daughter of our King! God bless.

    By Lauren | 6 years ago Reply
  6. Good read. This can go for women as well. It is very apparent in the men of today’s world that it can be a struggle. Thanks much for the article.

    By Nate | 6 years ago Reply
  7. Thank you so much!!! This really inspired and blessed me. It really opened my heart to the true meaning of loving oneself and how to love a woman. I also would like to pray to God to guide and bless you.

    By JP | 6 years ago Reply
  8. Very beautifully written. A powerful letter to our brothers yet express the longing of our sisters too. Love this a lot

    By Audrey | 6 years ago Reply
  9. Must you define men through women and movies such as braveheart? Men for for much more than women and children my dear. And equating those battles to some undefined “lust” is laughable.

    By Hank | 6 years ago Reply
  10. “In the times of knights and castles—in stories such as Braveheart—men went into battle for the protection of women and children, as well as their beliefs.” Maybe that’s where mankind got it wrong. He exalted the status of women and children and forgot about his own dignity and beliefs. He has been used and abused and spit out like bread crumbs.

    By John Morgan | 6 years ago Reply
  11. Once again an invitation to fully occupy the space within our castle in ways that honor our highest good and the good of all concerned. Well written Kaylin thank you for the invitation to explore deeper those things that align with the people God calls us to fully occupy on this earth school journey called life.

    By Lauren | 6 years ago Reply
  12. To Hank and John,
    You can continue to act like cowards, hiding behind your snide comments and taking the easy way of going with the cultural-flow. Or you can rise up and be who you were born to be! You and I and all of us were created for love (which is the decision to do what is best for others). We were not created for lust (which is selfishly using others to please one’s uncontrolled sexual desires). While it is natural to want to give yourself to the one you love in the form of sex, there are times when such an act will actually hurt the other (such as when two people aren’t married). Instead of taking the easy way out (and heroes, legends, don’t take the easy way out), be the brave, strong men you were created to be. Yes, there is more to a man than women and children, however, this is a big part of him. Men were born to protect others-men, women, and children alike. This is beautiful and good. I want to be able to trust men again, but it is comments like yours that make me bitter and afraid. You can still change that. I challenge you to be better men, men who rise to the occasion of others and don’t care if they get criticized for not sleeping around because they know that what they are doing is better and harder and so totally worth it! I’ll be praying for you, please pray for me

    By Olivia | 6 years ago Reply
  13. Incredible. Thank you for your love and support!

    By Dean | 6 years ago Reply
  14. Wherefore, fight valiantly against thy frail and sensual flesh, thine own worst enemy, which wages war against thee day and night. And know that he who shall overcome this mortal enemy of ours has most certainly defeated and discomfited all his other enemies, and shall attain to spiritual grace, and every degree of virtue and perfection.

    By Oliver Dalmata | 6 years ago Reply
  15. Thank you so much for this awesome article! Very inspiring we men are thankful for such great post that encourage us in the virtue of Chastity! God bless you and Ave Maria be with. J.M.J.

    By Marino | 6 years ago Reply
  16. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    By Jake | 6 years ago Reply

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