Revealing the “M” Word

I think we can all agree that $100 is a fairly large sum of money. If you had $100 on you, you’d probably want to put it in your pocket, a drawer, a safe, or the bank—somewhere safer than out in the open.

I was thinking about this a few weeks ago—how much we value money. How, with money, we want to keep it hidden and safe so that others cannot take it from us without our permission. We value money and we think things that cost a lot of money are valuable as well.

This may seem like an obvious statement, and I suppose it is. But after thinking about the way we treat money and how we take care of it, I started wondering about myself.

How much do I think I am worth?

I’m pretty sure I am worth more than $100. As a matter of fact, there is no way to put a price on who I am, because I am so valuable. I am priceless.

So if I am worth more than all that money I’d put in the bank if I had it in my hands, then the question I must ask myself is this: what measures do I take to protect myself like I would protect that money?

Now I don’t mean I want to go lock myself up in a safe. That would be… extreme. And creepy. And dangerous. And, well, weird.

I started thinking about who I am, and what I think I am worth. I am worth a lot. I don’t want to just give myself away. This is when I came to the realization that giving myself away starts with something very simple: the “M” word. Modesty.

I know; it’s summertime. That word is being thrown around all over the place. You’re probably sick of hearing about it. I know whenever I see that word I think “ah gosh, here we go again, someone is going to tell me how to dress. C’mon, it’s HOT out!”

I’ve been there before. I’ve worn the little tank tops and shorty shorts and skirts. Sometimes I still want to wear certain clothes that I shouldn’t wear. That’s usually when I ask my roommate what she thinks about my outfit and she will tell me honestly if it’s ok or not. Then I have to retreat and change if I don’t get the ok. Having an accountability partner to check out your clothes is a really good place to start. I know that might sound trivial, but they can see a 360 degree view of you that you can’t see in the mirror, and because they love you, they will be looking out for your best interests and giving you advice because they care about you as a person.

But why is it so important to be modest? What’s really the big deal? A lot of people will tell you that it’s not a big deal—that less is more.

Less is more. But not in the sense that our world today tells us it is.

Revealing less of you preserves more of yourself.

Cormac Burke says this about revealing ourselves with our wardrobe:

“Dress should be revealing. It should reveal the person, in his or her sense of values, of interior worth. Dress that over-reveals the body hinders the discovery of the person, of one’s real self—if there is any real self that remains worth showing.”

If we reveal more, we give the impression we’re worth less.

What are you worth?

That is what modesty comes down to. That’s what the “M” word is really all about. It’s why we are told that modesty is important—not because we want to have a million rules and make you cover up and never show yourself to anyone—but because it relates to who you are as a person. You are a whole person, not just a sum of parts.

Immodest dress makes parts of our body objects. It disconnects pieces of us from our whole. We begin to lose sight of ourselves as whole persons who are valuable and lovely. We start to see just legs or tummies. When we wear clothes that are more revealing we often start to lose focus on what, or perhapsI should say who, exactly we are revealing. We may think we’re just accentuating a certain body part, but then that part can become the focus of those around us. It becomes the only thing that is seen. It separates a part of us from our whole.

What does modesty really tell us? Sharing too much of yourself is selling yourself short.


ashAshley Ackerman is first and foremost a daughter of God, and after that she works as a speaker, blogger, administrative assistant, and nanny. She is a graduate of Franciscan University of Steubenville, where she earned her master’s degree in Theology. You can read more of Ashley’s blog posts by visiting


  1. Love this! It’s all so true!

    By Maggie | 7 years ago Reply
  2. I feel objectified just reading this.

    By Maria | 7 years ago Reply
  3. A good article as I have struggled with sending out pictures on Facebook that are appropriate for me in my 70’s, whether it is for strangers or friends.

    By Margaret Arguelles | 7 years ago Reply
  4. Beautifully put! I used to wear clothes that revealed too much and use the excuse that its too hot outside. But honestly, now I wear pants and long skirts all the time and I don’t feel like I’m going to die. Modest is hottest, and I’ve felt more comfortable since I started covering more up

    By Sidney | 7 years ago Reply
  5. Very good article, I wish someone would have shared this with me when I was young. Thanks you, for putting it out where young women can really see what other think, when they aren’t dress appropriately. Most may never tell you, but they think it just the same.

    By Carole Perkins | 7 years ago Reply
  6. Thank you for affirming what I’ve always believed in!

    By kim | 7 years ago Reply
  7. Thank you Ashley, well said. God bless you

    By Emmanuel | 7 years ago Reply
  8. this article is wrong in so many ways. just take this for example: “Immodest dress makes parts of our body objects.” not the dress causes the objectification, but people do. if you suffer due to the summer heat, take your clothes off. no one should judge or assault you because of that. and if you want to be naked at the beach, be naked. there`s nothing wrong with that. period.

    By alexandra | 7 years ago Reply
    • Exactly! This article is simply stating that God’s creation should be completely covered up under a bushel. God scolded Adam and Eve for being ashamed of their being naked. God does not want us to cover ourselves because we are God’s creation and we are beautiful.

      By Jeff | 7 years ago Reply
  9. Did you really just… compare a human…. to a $100 bill..? Amazing.

    By Shirley | 7 years ago Reply

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