Top 10 Reasons Not to Sext

About a third of teens admit that they’ve sent sexually suggestive texts or images online or over their phones. Given the fact that sexting has become so commonplace in schools and among celebrities, many people never pause to think about why it’s such a bad idea. Here’s a top ten list, for starters:

1. Any sexual image of a person seventeen years old or younger is considered child porn. Therefore, if you’re in high school or younger, you can be charged for distributing child pornography for sending sexual photos of yourself or others.

2. If you have sexual photos of teens on your phone, you can face felony charges for soliciting and possessing child porn.

3. If you’re sending sexual images online, you might not realize who is on the other side of the screen. Countless sex offenders pretend to be teens by using online photos of others. USA Today reported how a 51-year-old man pretended to be a teenage girl named “Sara” and persuaded more than 100 young people he met online to perform sexual acts on their webcam. He recorded what they did, uploaded the footage to file-sharing servers, and traded them worldwide. Another sex offender set up a bogus woman’s Facebook account and tricked a number of high school boys into sending him sexual images of themselves. He then blackmailed seven of them to perform sexual acts with him in public parks and bathrooms, after threatening to distribute the photos to their classmates if they refused.

4. Even if you know the person who is receiving your photo, he or she could still use it against you if the relationship ends. Cyberbulling through revenge porn has become a common tool to hurt someone when a breakup turns sour.

5. As part of the college application process, many universities are not simply reviewing your grades and entrance essays. Some review your social media accounts to evaluate your lifestyle. Will that photo help your chances?

6. Even if you think the image will disappear via Snapchat, it’s easy for the recipient to save such photos by taking a screenshot.

7. Let’s be honest: What are the odds that this person will keep that image private forever? Some teens sell the images of their girlfriends to their friends. Others trade the images like baseball cards.

8. Five years from now, when you apply for a job, your employer can do an online background check and find the images floating in cyberspace. This won’t look good on your resume.

9. You may be surprised who finds out about the sext, and I don’t just mean your siblings, parents, or your Aunt Mildred. I know of a high school athlete who lost his scholarship to play football at a D1 state university for sharing sexual images of classmates on his phone.

10. It’s a sin, and it leads people to sin. In Luke 17, Jesus says: “Temptations to sin are sure to come; but woe to him by whom they come! It would be better for him if a millstone were hung round his neck and he were cast into the sea, than that he should cause one of these little ones to sin.” Millstones can weigh hundreds of pounds, and you’re better off without one tied around your neck.

So, what do you do if someone asks you for a revealing photo? Send them a picture of your bare hand, waving goodbye to them.


j-evertJason Evert founded has spoken on six continents to more than one million people about the virtue of chastity. He is the author of more than ten books, including How to Find Your Soulmate without Losing Your Soul and Theology of the Body for Teens.


  1. Not all “sexts” involve inappropriate images. Words also play a large part in sexting, and can have damaging affects on your reputation, your relationship and your self-worth. Not to mention that words can be a “gateway” to images, meeting up, and other tempting or abusive situations. The safest bet is to turn off your phone after 11pm, surround yourself with good friends and supportive family, and to seek help if someone’s words make you uncomfortable.

    By A | 6 years ago Reply
    • girl sexting is a sin

      By keisha | 6 years ago Reply
  2. I was with you until the sin part. Even as a Christian, I feel like pointing out something from the Bible to prove a point about a modern issue gets rid of ethos.
    The Lord wanted us to draw conclusions from the world, not just quote His word at our problems.

    By Not-So-Outspoken Christian | 6 years ago Reply
    • Sorry, but I think reason 10 has a very good point. If we are Christians it’s because we follow Jesus Christ and his teachings. Besides, His word is also valid for this era and its ethos, it wasn’t just something that stayed back when it was spoken. It is also true, as you were saying, that the facts occurring in our lives and the world we live in are hints of God’s plan for us, but how can we know if the conclusions we make out of them are the True way to follow Him? That’s when His word is a help to understand life in a better way; in the best way actually.

      By Miriam | 6 years ago Reply
  3. Thank you, Jason. These articles have been so helpful. I’m so glad that I didn’t give into the temptation to send a picture to a guy I was dating. He kept pressuring me for an explicit one and was making me feel uncomfortable. I came close to sending a suggestive one, but I’m so glad that the Holy Spirit allowed me to resist and eventually break things off with the guy. At first, it was difficult because I felt like I really liked him, but I believe now that it was the best choice to make.

    God bless you!

    By Jessica | 6 years ago Reply
  4. Well I am not sure in number 8 that they will find any inappropriate material on you unless they are signed up for those services themselves. Plus when I do searches, I can’t find anything. Its like the search engine knows your a women, or should I say a Fem. So lets not talk about sins when lying is a sin and so is killing but that doesn’t keep Christians and other religious fanatics from doing it in the name of MAN…who made himself God.

    By Cherie | 6 years ago Reply
  5. This post really inspired me, thank you Jason!

    By Guye | 6 years ago Reply

    By ben baker | 6 years ago Reply
  7. Jason mentioned in his presentation a computer monitoring software that we should install on all devices, I forgot what the name of it, could you please provide that to me?

    By Peter Campbell | 6 years ago Reply
    • It’s called Covenant Eyes.

      By Lan | 6 years ago Reply
  8. So I have been feeling bad for doing certain things so what should I do

    By Joshua Dale Beals | 6 years ago Reply

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